More Love and Attachment

i feel like something gets dislodged in my sense of self when i'm emotionally caught up with someone...i don't know if it's my attachment coming out...?

what do you mean your sense of self?

i mean...normally, being on my own i don't feel very bothered by my attachments...but when i'm emotionally and intimately with someone else...i almost start doubting myself, i start getting attached

What you sense is not your self

it is the mind, it is natural for the mind to become attached to those things that are pleasurable and reject those which are not

it also breathes in for air, this is just as natural

observation is the key, if you can observe, the mind will not bind you up

whatever comes just relax, know that it cannot touch you

love is not grasping, nor crushing

observe observe

do you have time to practice meditation?

yes

great

this is the best way to unstick yourself from the mind

and then it will all get easier

is there anything i should base the meditation off of?

no that is just more mind

looking for something to do

ok

if the mind is so razzed up that you cannot sit still and watch it, then do some technique

otherwise just relax, chuck all the techniques, books and blablabla out the window

all of them point to just relaxing and throwing everyrthing away anyway

i enjoy sitting still...i will do this everyday

great

do enjoy it, smile and relax :):)

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